It will be OK

Light up your life with these simple words: It will be OK

It will be OK as the Urban Dictionary explains, is something you’re told when you know it’s not OK. This little sentence has been said to me many a time when really nothing was anywhere in the vicinity of OK, but through the years I’ve learned that these very words can lead you to so much inner peace, and sometimes even rainbows. Let me explain.

What does "it will be OK" really mean?

It will be OK. Consider the literal meaning of these words. Some day, some way, it will be all right. Do you know what that also means? That therefore, right now, it does NOT have to be all right. That you don't have to do everything and anything in your power to make it better. Because if it will be OK one day anyway, then it is also allowed to be thoroughly not-OK in this very moment.

And this way of looking at it immediately brings us to my message for today: take the moments as they come, not as you want them to be. Which also means, stop trying to make the best out of every single situation. One thing you know for sure, is that everything is always changing; every moment and every feeling will pass. If you take a second to contemplate this, what do you think leads to more inner peace? Living as if every day could be your last or taking the moments (and therefore life) as they come?

When you know for sure that this moment, this feeling, will pass, it becomes a lot less scary to be fully present with it. Both with the good and with the bad. Because soon it will be different. 100%.

What if?

What if you stopped trying to turn a sad moment into a lesson, what if you stopped trying to find gratitude in your frustrations or trying to make a very mediocre evening into a perfectly enjoyable one leaving you with a bunch of amazing memories? What if you just allowed that evening to be mediocre and what if the sadness and frustration didn't have to bring you anything except the experience itself? What would your life look like if you would just leave the silver linings be and accept the moments as they come?

Please know that you don't have to experience some kind of zen-like acceptance in the process. When you simply decide that this moment is not going to be (anywhere near) optimal, it doesn't have to be and your heart can relax. Those are the moments in which you can genuinely be fully present – and, sometimes, even discover a rainbow.

Accepting the rain to see the rainbows

As you most likely know, rainbows can appear anytime there is sunshine and rain at the same time. Yet we often seem to sort of overlook the latter.

Whenever it rains, we protect ourselves with our umbrellas and raincoats; we stay inside as much as possible and when we are outside, we rush and habitually keep our gaze down. Anything to catch as few drops as possible. We seem to think we can actually outsmart the rain with all those protective layers and extra haste, but the thing we're really running from is the reality of this very moment.

Of course, there is by no means always a rainbow to be seen whenever it's raining. Sometimes the sun is simply nowhere to be found - though of course it is still there, otherwise it would be pitch black. Nor is that the point here. The point, basically, is that you can relax a bit and be more fully present if you don't try to dodge the raindrops, but just feel and accept them. Rainbow or not, at least you are at home, with yourself and in the moment.

Practicing this kind of acceptance

You can practice this at any time in your life you had envisioned going, let’s say, quite differently, by saying this (inspired by the words of Sylvia Boorstein) to yourself:

‘I choose to meet this moment fully. I choose to meet it as a friend.’

And, as you have probably already figured out for yourself, you can also literally practice this in the rain. Of course, there are times when you want to look as dry and non-smudged as possible and you do rush and keep your gaze down, but there are also times (on your way home when you don't have any plans) when you can consciously allow the rain to pour down and let yourself get wet (no, not that kind of wet, you nasty). Look up (or at least not down) and invite the rain onto your face. Who knows, you may find a ray of sunlight in that very moment, within yourself, taking you to the rainbow that always lives inside of you. 

Surrender is key

This surrender is the key that gives you access to the true colors of your authentic self and all that you already carry within. You don't have to look for it. It will come to you when you take life as it comes.

It will be OK, dear human. And so it doesn't have to be all fine and dandy in this particular moment. Embrace the moments, and you'll not only embrace life, you’ll embrace yourself.